At Rosh Hashanah services yesterday, I sat next to my nine year old son, a bundle of squirmy, unsettled reluctance. By the end of the service, hours later, while not precisely alight with religious fervor, he was mentally and physically present, participating, and perhaps even enjoying himself. I believe this happened because as a learner and participant in the experience, my son was in the driver’s seat–or, more accurately, in the reader’s seat. At the start of the service, I gave my prayerbook to someone else and let my son know that he and I needed to share, and that he was in charge of the book. Over the course of the service, he began to demonstrate ownership of “his” book, turning the pages at the correct moments and following along during the Hebrew songs and prayers, demonstrating his ability with that book to himself, to me, and to the congregation. A powerful way to teach is to let go–to physically relinquish the book, the paper in the midst of edits, the computer keyboard, the whisk in the kitchen–and participate as a companion as someone else learns. Serving as a witness and coach to a learner’s experience makes sense, and